“Good manners sometimes means simply putting up with other people’s bad manners.” H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
When new things come around, it takes some time to adjust. That’s how it’s been with our train system. In our busy city, it was badly needed and has certainly helped as a people mover.
On the other hand, this beautifully organized system relies on people showing manners to make things more efficient. On the whole, people have learned to allow passengers to get off first, but I get irritated at the arrogance of those who waltz in while others are coming out.
Here are a few ways to stand out with your great manners in a crowded city.
Bus your tray at the fast food restaurant. Here in Asia, we’re used to being served. In fact, we’ve completely ditched our good manners in order to keep someone else busy by consistently leaving our trays at the table. Even so, this is a perfect place to shine by showing off your good manners. Taking a tray will be noticed by hard workers in this crowded city.
Hold your trash until you find a garbage can. I’m happy to see more and more pedestrians being fined for their bad manners of throwing down trash. Paying out hard-earned cash is a great teacher of good manners.
Don’t pass in a non-passing zone. I’m sure it’s happened to you. While waiting patiently in a long line of cars, five or ten car drivers decide to pass in the wrong lane to get ahead. Before I know it, these cars are beeping to squeeze back in line just ahead of me. No way, brother. You get what you deserve. I find it amazing how close I can follow the car before me in this situation.
Good manners may seem to go unnoticed, but those with good manners recognize the same in others.
“Fine manners need the support of fine manners in others.” Ralph Waldo Emerson