“A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity.” Robert Hall
We knew we needed more than a cup of coffee to catch up. It had been four months since we had seen one another, and we were in desperate need of conversation. It was an eternal conversation until we decided to get back to life.
That’s what I love about a real friend! We make efforts to converse, and we tell the truth. A real friend knows us and helps us through the good and the bad. We don’t hold back.
None of us need a lot of friends, but a few deep and healthy friendships make life golden.
Here are five ways to deepen a friendship:
1. Share deeply – We can choose to keep our friendships superficial, but I think you’ll find that taking a risk in a friendship is well worth the pay-off.
2. Meet often – In order to develop a friendship, we need to spend time together. It’s the gift of time that allows us to develop the trust we need in order to share deeply.
3. Sharpen one another – Adding to insult is not the job of a friend. It’s great to have a friend who will sharpen us and who we can also sharpen. “Iron sharpens iron” and a strong friendship should be no different. We must be intentionally developing ourselves if we hope to sharpen someone else.
4. Make time for the friendship – The bottom line is that to have a friend, we’ve got to be one. Honestly, it takes time and commitment.
5. Give good advice – In a friendship, we can’t be afraid to share the truth. After all, what’s friendship? There are ways to share the truth with encouragement. That is what my friend does for me, and I’m so grateful for it. Otherwise, how could I trust her advice?
During this season of giving, don’t forget to give the gift of deepening a friendship. It adds to the fragrance of Christmas.
“Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing.” Benjamin Franklin